My current boyfriend was shocked when, after we first made love, I told him that all I wanted in a relationship at the time was a "friends with benefits" situation. It had been a year and eight months since my husband had died; my sex drive had recovered, but my heart was still hibernating. I'd been my husband George's caregiver as he'd succumbed to cancer. Sex hadn't been a part of my life for a long time. I was too worried about him to think of much else.
It’s never OK to date your friend’s ex – and this is why
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It makes sense that it can be tempting to fall back into a relationship with your ex-husband. After all, something drew you to him in the first place and in addition now you have memories, history and possibly children together. Dating your ex can be a positive thing or a nightmare. To keep things on a positive note, follow certain guidelines.
Rules for Dating an Ex-Husband
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This is not the first time something like this has happened to me. When i was 18 i was engaged to "Matt" he was killed in a car wreck 3 months before we where to get married. Afterwards his step-brother "Kevin" and i had somewhat of an affair.